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Ladies, does your husband feel appreciated, admired, valued, respected, and loved by you?

I’m not just talking in the bedroom, I’m referring to day-to-day interactions.

Speaking gratitude over nagging, expressing praise for what he does well instead of focusing on his faults, letting him know how much you value WHO he is instead of just what he does for you and the family, etc.

For example, do you let him know you’re thankful for the way he is patient with you when you might be on a hormonal/emotional rollercoaster due to “the time of the month?” Do you let him know how grateful you are for the way he invests in your children and how safe you feel in his presence?

Do you let him know how grateful you are that he chooses to stay faithful to you daily instead of having wandering eyes?

Do you thank him for his godly character?

There are endless ways to celebrate your spouse if your heart is in the right place.

As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I’ve worked with thousands of couples who focus more on what’s wrong in their marriage and with their spouse than on noticing the good that comes from being around them. After a while, this takes a toll and wrecks relationships to the point of divorce.

…But it all starts with our own hearts.

If our hearts are bitter, insecure, lonely, disconnected, fearful, and wounded, we will project that pain onto our spouses-whether they “deserve it” or not.

My encouragement to wives who are struggling is to talk about their feelings and needs rather than bury them.

Use phrases like “I” instead of “you” when you address what’s bothering you, so your spouse wouldn’t feel defensive when you bring up an area of concern. 

Ask them how they feel and what they need, instead of always making the conversation about you. 

Seek ways to make their favorite meals, engage in their favorite relaxing activity, whether that’s in the bedroom or shooting, fishing, or playing chess. CXaring for your spouse in these ways can open their heart to do the same for you. 

As you strive to care for your other half, let God meet you where you are first, before expecting your spouse to “fix” how you feel about yourself. Let God love you where your spouse lacks. Let Him fill you with security, joy, peace, hope, and forgiveness in ways that your spouse may not be able to. 

Research shows that for every negative moment in your relationship, replacing it with 5 acts of kindness will rebuild trust and love between you both.

There is hope for the most broken relationship if BOTH individuals are willing to admit their flaws, take personal responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings, and actions that contributed to the relationship's breakdown, and seek help from the Lord and a trained professional.

If you’re looking for help, please reach out. I’ll give you all the tools you need to heal your marriage.

It’s never too late