Slavic Christian men loving their spouses

The tender way a man loves his family is simply based on his choice to.

It doesn’t matter what family he grew up in or what his current circumstances are; every single day, he gets to choose to love his wife and children as Christ loves him, or not.

I have worked with hundreds of men who have chosen to stay in their trauma and repeat it, blaming their parents’ lack of love, abusers for hurting them, and/or pastors for how they turned out—because they refuse to accept the responsibility that God put on them as leaders, lovers, protectors, and providers. 

The biggest problem that we have in our Western culture today that feeds these behaviors further is a lack of loving and courageous men who look like Christ. This lack has also penetrated the Slavic churches. Men are complacent, silent, physically and mentally weak, afraid of “rocking the boat,” boys in adult bodies: choosing to play video games instead of teaching their children what hard work and respect for their mother looks like.

Many of them have either left the church (emotionally and/or physically) and have no accountability, or have been sucked into the legalistic way they’ve been taught to obey God religiously, but have forgotten what a relationship with God is all about. How do we expect anything different in our nation if the home life looks like this?

Until men discover their identities in Christ, they won’t be able to love their families as Christ loves them. They were created to be kings and priests, not complacent cowards who no longer stand for their values as patriots of their nation and pastors of their homes. They won’t be able to lead as Christ expects them to. Their wives will continue to refuse to obey and follow because of the poor example that is set at home in their abusive and domineering behavior.

All of this is preventable, and hope is available for men who are currently struggling with these patterns and want change.

I help men heal by exploring their past pain and helping them take accountability in the present so their future can heal.

Since attending therapy, many men have chosen to forgive their past and love their spouses, and their marriages have been redeemed. Children have seen a difference in their fathers and turned back to having a relationship with their parent. Wives have said that their marriage has never been better because their husbands are now emotionally attuned to them instead of being stuck in their destructive behaviors of survival.

Dear men, healing is available to you if you want it. Change is available if you crave it. Hope is here if you’re ready to live differently and be a cycle breaker in your family’s bloodline. 

Dear wives, healing is available for your marriage if you want to encourage your husbands to pursue it in couples therapy gently.

I am here to serve you if you want help. Please reach out today.