Slavic Christian husbands and fathers

Dear Slavic “Christian” husbands and fathers, 

You’re a wimp if you don’t want to work to provide for your queen and offspring. 

You’re a wimp if you’re a sexual, physical, and emotional abuser. 

You’re a wimp if you can’t control your thoughts, feelings, and actions and take them out on others. 

You’re a wimp if you run away from trouble instead of confronting it. 

You’re not scary; you’re scared. 

Unhealed, traumatized men are cowards.

They were the ones who grew up in homes where they didn’t receive their fathers’ love or their mothers’ acceptance.

These men became self-centered and cruel. It’s “their way or the highway.”

Deep down, they feel powerless, invisible, and silenced.

These men force their wives to get pregnant and then sit on welfare because they don’t want to work.

These men emotionally and physically abuse their wives and children.

These men place their identity in controlling others-having no respect for authority or accountability to call out their sinful behavior.

These men rape their wives “and call it intimacy” while never caring for her sexual needs and bringing her to orgasm. Their wives dread having sex-even reporting in therapy that it's painful, and they dissociate during the process. 

These men throw temper tantrums in the form of yelling, punching, swearing, threatening to leave, or even saying they’ll kill their wives and children.

These men don’t know how to discuss their problems because their parents never taught them how. They aren’t aware of their feelings and needs but expect others to cater to them anyway. 

These men had fathers who molested them or their siblings and then preached at church. Sadly, they either followed his poor example or did the complete opposite and became complacent and weak because their self-worth was ruined in their father’s shadow. 

These men are threatened by God using their wives for His glory because she’s “supposed to be quiet, obedient, and in her place beneath him.”

These men see no problems with their behavior and do not need change.

These men are in leadership positions and use people to their advantage, or they sit on the back pew, either not worshipping God as their Father and Savior.

These men aren’t men.

They’re boys in a grown-up body that never grew up emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually.

These men aren’t respected; they’re resented because they represent the worst characteristics of the most significant role: protector, lover, provider, etc.

If you’re not a man who loves his family like Christ loved the church, to the point of crucifying your flesh, ego, and selfishness daily, what is the purpose of your vain existence?

One day, you will stand before God and give an account of how you failed Him and the blessings He gave you to steward.

If you don’t repent, you’ll spend the rest of eternity paying the price for your wickedness as you called yourself a “Christian” who never knew Christ.

Men, today, you get to choose to repeat the cycles of your past or give them to Jesus at the cross and create a new future for your family. Let this sink in.